Today, as I reread this article about John and Julie Gottman that ran in the New York Times last year, I reflected on how frequently I talk to couples about the concept of “turning toward.” The Gottmans have researched intimate relationships for decades and their work has provided us with data that is invaluable for anyone who wants to learn to be a better partner. One of my main take-aways from their work is that, when it comes to improving our love lives, very small, simple actions can have a huge impact.